Of the three great motivations: coping, validating my identity, or other-centeredness; which one are you?
Kudos to a great mentor, friend and psychotherapist, Joe Gross. He was a huge fan of following the “why”. Dr. Gross would often explain that if we understand the motivation then we can deal with the energy behind it.
When the idea that “what’s in it for me?” is expanded to include my need to be respected as a contributor, essential to someone else’s life, or valued as a person then our purpose for being energized into society becomes wrought with pathways toward becoming useful to others.
But here is an even deeper truth. The greatest paradigm of this thought is unexperienced even in the validation of one’s own self-worth. What if our “why” reached beyond the stars and into an aspect of value that permeates relationships? Being validated as a good speaker on the public stage pales to being a portion of a process that succeeds in giving a modest hope for life to a desperately poor or ill individual, or advocating for change from a quiet place in the universe where we are not in the spotlight but still remain essential to the greater good.
We will never succeed in promoting every life to the place of honor at the figurative table – it is a perfectly failed proposition. What we can do is give in to the ideal that leaders who hold perceived positions of prestige are propped up by the sinew, bone and spirit of the true sowers of the harvest. If you have a culture that holds success to be the Super Trouper brand spotlight moment our parents told us all that we deserve then you are growing a large group of disenfranchised employees.
A leader’s truest function is connecting the success of their people with reason and purpose associated with the greater good of the community we serve. Being the figurative Super Trouper is actually doing just that – shining light on other people.
Do you spend time connecting people with their why? Do you have a good vision of your own reason for working?